Embracing Change on My Journey from 50s to 60s
Approaching 60 later this year, looking back at my fifties, I find myself filled with a mix of nostalgia, gratitude, and curiosity. The fifties were a decade of growth, learning, and, yes, some mistakes too. My children are now starting their own lives. Things feel ripe for a new chapter in life; this is not slowing down, but recognizing my responsibilities and priorities are shifting.
I have a wealth of skills, experiences, and extensive “living a life in this world" already behind me. As I look ahead, I feel an excitement for what’s to come - a new chapter that promises its own adventures, with a different sense of freedom and opportunity. What have I learned and what am I excited about?
Me nearly 10 years ago!
5 things i’m leaving behind in my 50s
1. The Quest for Quick Fixes
In my fifties, I spent time searching for shortcuts - whether it was the latest superfood, a new workout trend, or the “perfect” supplement. I realize now that real change comes from consistency and patience, not from chasing after the next big thing. There’s no magic pill that will make me healthier, happier, or younger overnight. The real magic lies in the small, daily choices that add up over time: eating well, moving my body, getting enough sleep, and being present in the moment.
2. Being Too Hard on Myself
I’ve always set high standards for myself, sometimes to the point of being my own harshest critic. If I missed a workout, indulged in dessert, or didn’t tick off everything on my to-do list, I felt guilty. But now, I’m learning to be gentler with myself. Life is a marathon, not a sprint. If I miss a day or two of healthy habits, it’s not the end of the world. I'm playing “the long game,” so if I'm on vacation or ill or other things come up, I'm not concerned about missing a few days of my normal routine.
3. Limiting Beliefs About Aging
Our culture loves to tell stories about decline as we age—about slowing down, losing strength, and fading into the background. But these are just stories, not truths; I and others around me are living examples! I still feel strong, vital, and eager to learn and do new things. I wouldn't say that I've fallen prey to believing the stories, but rather that I have found so many ways and examples to stay fresh and vibrant, I want to be an example of how wrong they are. I can still grow, challenge myself, and surprise even myself.
4. Overreliance on Data and Devices
I’ll admit, I'm a data geek. It’s fascinating to see how many steps I’ve taken or how well I’ve slept. But I’ve also noticed how easy it is to become obsessed with the numbers. If my tracker says I didn’t sleep well, I might think I should feel tired, even if I actually feel okay! I’m learning to remember that data is a tool, an indicator, not a dictator. My body’s wisdom matters more than any app.
5. Stagnation and Playing It Safe
There’s comfort in routine, but too much of it can lead to stagnation. In my fifties, I sometimes stuck to what I knew, choosing the steady, known course for a perceived sense of stability and security. Yet this was a false feeling; our society is certainly not stable or secure, whatever choices I make. We all felt the uncertainty of Covid, and our world is changing faster and faster, with some things alarming and others offering opportunity. Life is too short, too precious (the "too short” narrative is also age-related fear mongering) to let fear or inertia hold me back. Whether it’s trying a new sport, leveraging my skills in a new career direction, traveling to a new place, or simply saying yes to more invitations, I want to keep evolving for my entire time on this planet.
Me more recently, about to turn 60
5 things I’m embracing in my 60s
1. Rucking: Taking My Walks to the Next Level
I’ve always loved walking and hiking: they’re my moving meditations. I recently discovered rucking: adding weights to my walks to build strength and endurance. It’s a simple twist on something I already enjoy, but it challenges me in new ways. I love the feeling of pushing myself just a bit further, knowing I’m building resilience for the years ahead.
2. Mindful Self-Care and Balance
In my sixties, I want to be more intentional about self-care…not just physically, but emotionally and mentally too. That means listening to my body and my heart, making time for rest, and seeking out activities that bring me joy and peace. I’m learning that balance is key: too much rigidity leads to burnout, while too little structure leads to a feeling of entropy and listlessness. I want to find that sweet spot where I feel nourished and energized.
3. Reflecting on My Career and Planning What’s Next
This stage of life naturally brings reflection. I look back on my career with pride and gratitude for all I’ve learned and accomplished. But I also feel a sense of anticipation, what do I want to do next? Maybe it’s mentoring others, volunteering, or starting a passion project. I have wisdom to share and energy to invest. The next phase is about purpose, not just productivity.
4. Prioritizing Social Connection
If there’s one thing science (and life) has taught me, it’s that relationships are vital for well-being. I want to invest more in my friendships, family, and community. Whether it’s regular coffee dates, group hikes, or just picking up the phone more often, I want to nurture the connections that make life meaningful. Longevity isn’t just about physical health: it’s about feeling loved and supported.
5. Embracing Gentleness and Flexibility
Perhaps the biggest lesson I’m carrying into my sixties is the importance of being gentle with myself. Life will throw curveballs—illness, loss, unexpected changes. Instead of fighting against them, I want to meet them with flexibility and grace. If I need to slow down, that’s okay. If plans change, I can adapt. Gentleness isn’t weakness; it’s wisdom.
Looking Ahead with Optimism
As I leave my fifties behind, I feel lighter. Not because I’m letting go of years, but because I’m letting go of what no longer serves me. I’m stepping into my sixties with a sense of adventure, a commitment to growth, and a heart full of hope and promise. The journey continues, and I’m excited to see where it leads.
I hope you’ll join me in embracing change, seeking balance, and living each day with curiosity and kindness. The best is yet to come in a life lived fully, with intention and resilience.
Seize the years,
Brian Kling | Community and Customer Marketing, Yeu
